Communication can help break through the isolation that some people with cancer and their care partners feel. There are many ways to communicate meaningfully. But at the core of all good communication is one thing: listening with your heart. Read more about what you can say, and do, to talk about issues you may be having, such as intimacy.

What you can say
It is sometimes hard to find words to express your feelings. Here are several things that you might say:

• “I miss spending time with you.”
• “I’m not sure how to say this, but I’d like to be closer to you.”
• “I love you and want to be around you. Let’s work together to figure
  out how.”

It is helpful not to accuse or demand. Avoid saying things like “You never spend time with me anymore” or “I’m frustrated. When are you going to be ready?”

What you can do

• Help your partner feel closer to you by offering love, support, and understanding.
• Know that there are many ways to express affection if your partner does not feel ready for sexual activity.
  • Hugging, holding hands, fondling, caressing, kissing, and cuddling can bring you closer together.
• Talk with your partner, and listen carefully to each other. For help in expressing your feelings, try talking with a counselor or social worker.